Learning to get what I want

[nisaa]

Recently I started asking for drinks without ice. It's a little thing that will help improve my digestion and blah blah blah that I've learned in school. Sometimes, this makes me look like a bitch, but I keep asking anyway. My friend K commented today while we were at Starbucks, that it's a good lesson that can be applied to everything. I'm not satisfied. That's not what I asked for.

Today the barista who made the drink seemed a little pissy about it because she gave me back a cup that was not full of iced tea and lemonade. It was empty about an inch where the ice was. I didn't push the issue. I'm not quite there yet.

Comments

[hawkegirl.livejournal.com]

I think it's all in the attitude.

I started asking for no ice when I was going to Royal. (giggle) However I found I can ask for no ice, like "no ice" or I can ask for no ice like "I'd perfer no ice please", or otherwise give the impression I know I'm asking for something out of the norm, that's it's important to me, but that I value them making the extra effort for me.

One thing I'm trying hard to do right now is in life (gawhd this will sound corney) is to give love and light, even in the face of anger. Like when the waitress gets pissy, my default is somewhere between shrinking that I've made someone angry at me, or pissed that they're pissed. I've been trying to like in the case you mention above, give someone a heart felt thank you, and that I did appriciate it. It's supprising how it often jogs the person into a better space. It's supprising how often I don't or can't do that, and give bitch queen back at them. *sigh* little steps I suppose...

Anyhow, go no ice! :>

[usqueba.livejournal.com]

I ask, "May I have...". My two things (currently ::G::) are light ice in my soda or salad dressing on the side. 95% of the time, it goes right. And yea, I always add a big thanks.

[ame-chan.livejournal.com]

that's so weird - why would they mind??

hey, I need to ask you questions about your clinic... when'll you be home so I can bug you?

[nisaa.livejournal.com]

I'm home all night tonight if you wanna call. If I don't answer, I'm just out watering the garden so leave a message.

No ice, baby!

[dakotakym.livejournal.com]

The "no ice" thing really does make a big difference with digestion.. definitely don't feel bad about it.
Service personnel are often taught a certain amount of ice to put in with the drinks they serve because it saves the establishment they work for $$ (ice is cheaper than whatever beverage you're drinking). Most people are used to it & don't think much about it. People get cranky about it both because you are asking for something special, and because they perceive you as being "cheap" (which isn't a great combo when you are a wait person & earn your money from tips).
I honestly don't mind if the "no ice" request also means a bit less in the cup where the ice would have been.. as long as there's no ice to mess up my digestion!

[theresat.livejournal.com]

I know that at Starbucks, as a barista you are trained to fill up iced drink cups with liquid to the top green line, then put ice in until the cup is full.

Most baristas will not recognize asking for no ice as a health concern, but as you trying to get more for your money, and will percieve you as a cheap jerk who is trying to get more than you paid for.

And when you're a barista and someone asks for a drink with no ice, you have two options. Follow your training and fill the cup to the top green line with liquid, then give the customer a drink that makes them feel screwed; or fill the cup all the way, and feel like you're being screwed.

On a seperate, non-Starbucks note, I'm interested about this ice thing. I take ice in everything, sometimes to excess, and I'm curious about the effect on digestion. Do you know any websites or anything where I could read about it?

[nisaa.livejournal.com]

The thing about ice is simple: there's a fire in your stomach that you need to digest food. Some people have a weak fire, i.e., weak digestion. Pouring ice on the fire puts it out and makes it harder for some people to digest food. I have a weak digestion so I try to help my stomach when I can.

It's also a shock to your system. Exercizing and then gulping down a cup of iced water will make your body think it's cold all of a sudden and it will work harder to keep you warm. The best thing to do in warmer weather if you're hot is to drink a warm or hot beverage. Drinking hot tea will make you sweat and then cool you down. The first time someone told me that many years ago, I thought they were insane. Now I know it to be true.

Hope that helps. I don't know any websites but this is what I learned in acupuncture school.

[nisaa.livejournal.com]

Oh, and thanks for explaining the Starbucks thing to me. I try to be as nice as possible when I ask for no ice. I just thought I pissed off the barista when she gave me a less than full cup.

no ice

[aislingrua.livejournal.com]

oh yeah... i can't stand cold cold drinks... people always look at me sideways when i say that it 'puts out my inner fire'. i never really feel like explaining it. ;) however, i've said that to waitstaff and it always makes them giggle, which in turn makes for a better experience. :)

(side note, when i was a waitress i never minded if someone requested no ice, and i always filled the cup up)

[gayathri.livejournal.com]

I'm with you on the 'no ice' thing. I ask for no ice all the time with drinks, because I dont want it that cold...

I didnt know the reason behind it, tho my friend does it to save her voice.