I started asking for no ice when I was going to Royal. (giggle) However I found I can ask for no ice, like "no ice" or I can ask for no ice like "I'd perfer no ice please", or otherwise give the impression I know I'm asking for something out of the norm, that's it's important to me, but that I value them making the extra effort for me.
One thing I'm trying hard to do right now is in life (gawhd this will sound corney) is to give love and light, even in the face of anger. Like when the waitress gets pissy, my default is somewhere between shrinking that I've made someone angry at me, or pissed that they're pissed. I've been trying to like in the case you mention above, give someone a heart felt thank you, and that I did appriciate it. It's supprising how it often jogs the person into a better space. It's supprising how often I don't or can't do that, and give bitch queen back at them. *sigh* little steps I suppose...
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Date: 2004-08-05 06:15 pm (UTC)I started asking for no ice when I was going to Royal. (giggle) However I found I can ask for no ice, like "no ice" or I can ask for no ice like "I'd perfer no ice please", or otherwise give the impression I know I'm asking for something out of the norm, that's it's important to me, but that I value them making the extra effort for me.
One thing I'm trying hard to do right now is in life (gawhd this will sound corney) is to give love and light, even in the face of anger. Like when the waitress gets pissy, my default is somewhere between shrinking that I've made someone angry at me, or pissed that they're pissed. I've been trying to like in the case you mention above, give someone a heart felt thank you, and that I did appriciate it. It's supprising how it often jogs the person into a better space. It's supprising how often I don't or can't do that, and give bitch queen back at them. *sigh* little steps I suppose...
Anyhow, go no ice! :>